Find below men and women who in the past used words to despise God and the repercussions:
1.JOHN LENNON(Singer) many years ago,during an interview with an American Magazine,said”Christianity will end ,it will disappear. I do not have to argue about that. Iam certain. Jesus was OK,but his subjects were too simple,today we are more famous than Him”(1966).Lennon,after saying that the”Beatles” were more famous than Jesus Christ,was shot six times.
2.CHRISTINE HEWITT-(Jamaican Journalist and Entertainer) said,”The Bible,word of God was the worst book ever written”.In June 2006, she was found burnt beyond recognition in her motor car.
3. In Campinas, Brazil,a group of friends, drunk,went to pick a friend ………The mother accompanied her to the car and was so worried about the drunkenness of her friends and said to the daughter,holding her hand who was already seated in the car:”My daughter,Go with God and may He protect you”. She responded, ”only if He (GOD) travels in the Trunk, cause inside here…..it’s already full”.Hours later, news came in that they were involved in a fatal accident and everyone in the car died and the car could not be recognized.However, surprisingly,the Trunk was intact. Inside the trunk of the car was a crate of eggs,none was broken!
4. TANCREDO NEVES(Ex-President of Brazil),during the presidential campaign,said,”if he got 500,000 votes from his party,not even God would remove him from Presidency”. Truly, he got the votes,but he fell sick a day before being sworn in as President,he later died.
5.CAZUZA(Bi-sexual Composer,Singer and Poet)- During a show in Canecio(RIO deJANEIRO),while smoking his cigarette,puffed out some smoke into the air and said:”God, that’s for you’. He died at the age of 32 of Lung Cancer in a horrible manner.
6.MARILYN MONROE(Actress)- Billy Graham visited Marilyn Monroe during one of her presentations of a show. He said”the spirit of God had sent him to preach to her. After hearing what the preacher had to say,she said:’I don’t need your Jesus”. A week later, she was found dead in her apartment.
7. BON SCOTT(Singer) The ex-vocalist of the AD/DC.sang in one of his:songs:”I’m going down all the way,down the highway to hell”. On the 19th of February 1980, Bon Scott was found dead;he had been choked by his own vomit.
8. The man who built the TITANIC(a ship) after the construction of the Titanic ship,a reporter asked him how safe the Titanic would be? In an ironic and emphatic tone he said:”Not even God can sink it”. The truth is that the TITANIC set on sail but sank that same day.
Make a reflection on the above and bridle your tongue.
REMINISCENCE- BREAKFAST WITH BEN CARSON
The author of ‘Gifted Hands’ Dr Ben Carson is a household name in the medical profession all over the world. He is reputed t have laid the foundation of the successful separation of a Siamese twin- a rare feat in the medical profession as a surgeon. No wonder his visit to Nigeria, first of its kind, on 24th January, 2009 meant many things to many people.
I was part of the people that welcomed and graced the arrival of Dr Ben Carson to Nigeria from America, having been invited for the programme along with others by Brainhive International Masterpiece Resource Development Centre, Lagos.
The event took place at the Lagoon Restaurant, 1C, Ozumba Mbadiwe Way, Victoria Island. Many schools, colleges and universities were invited to drink from the fountain of knowledge of the renown neuro-surgeon-Dr. Ben Carson. Among the schools invited were: American International and Christian The school (AICS), Ibadan, The Ambassadors, from Ogun State, Obafemi Awolowo University(OAU),Ile-Ife,Global International College(GIC),Lagos and Corona Primary School, Ikeja, Lagos, to mention a few.
Ben spoke on ‘’The Brain and what it has to do with intellectuals’’. One could not but shed tears of joy to hear the professor and former director of pediatric neuro- surgery at John Hopkins Medical institutions shared his early childhood experience with us with nostalgic feelings. How his half-literate mother positively affected his life and his brother Curtis at a time he (Ben) in particular was lagging behind in his studies at a tender age. That, he was always at the bottom of his class which made his classmates annoyingly and rudely nicknamed him ‘ dummy’ which made him develop a violent and uncontrollable temper.
Like what a good mother would do, Ben’s mother, though not as educated and having divorced Ben’s father, took the bull by the horn to make her children better in life. Hear the mother according to Ben’s story ‘Bennie, you have to work hard, you have to use that good brain that God gave you’’. According to Ben, his mother made it compulsory for him and his brother to read two books from the library every week and not to watch television programmes until they have finished their home works. That sounded too harsh for Ben and his brother but paid a greater dividend for them as they grew to adulthood. Ben began reading any book he found in his school library and cultivated a reading culture which later took him to the echelon in his class to become the doyen of all. He mentioned particularly a time his class teacher asked the class to identify and mention a type of rock which nobody could identify but him. He was able to recognize the rock because of one of the books he had read in the library.
Contrary to a layman’s belief that the bigger the head, the bigger the brain or better intelligence; Ben says,’’ The size of the head, whether big or small, does not determines intelligence’’.’’ Everybody has to use his own God-given brain’’
After Ben’s inspiring speech, and many other sides attractions, there was the signing of autographs, questions and answers session. After the interactive session, we were treated with breakfast delicacies ranging from sandwiches, to cake, juice and tea.
By – Idowu Akintunde
WHY GIRL- CHILD MARRIAGE IN 21ST CENTURY?
The issue of girl-child marriage is no longer a new thing. But the other side of it is whether people, -parents, in particular, understand the dangers involved in giving out their under-aged children in marriage. So, what is child marriage by definition and is it only among Africans that we have it? What are the reasons for girl-child marriage(s), how can we curb or expunge the practice? Are there any social implications? Let’s explore to find these.
Child –marriage is any formal or informal union where one or both parties are under the age of 18 years. Reliable records indicate that 12illion girls are married before the age of 18 years. Child marriage is found across countries, cultures, and religions. For example, the practice happens in Nigeria, Brazil, Indonesia, Ethiopia, North America, and Europe just to mention a few.
Many reasons have been advanced for this form of a barbaric, callous and dangerous form of union. Among these are gender inequality, poverty, traditions, and insecurity. The most common among these reasons are poverty and tradition/culture.
Many parents found it difficult to cater for their children after birth and therefore resort to trading them off before the ripe age of 18 years expecting that they would get some financial rewards from such ‘business’. Also, they believe that the child(ren) will no longer be their own ‘headache’ in terms of welfare which now rests solely on the husband. Similarly, in some traditions/cultures, friends agree to marry off their girl-child even while in the womb. The idea is like trade by barter. The help rendered in the past or to be rendered now or future is compensated with the promise of such under-aged girls without any recourse to their well-being or future.
On the social aspect, they regard it as a social status symbol making their girl-child raise babies to populate their environments, not minding the health and psychological hazards involved. The underage is later in her husband’s house turned to a sex slave and instrument of abuse on the farm instead of going for formal or basic education to prepare her for future or womanhood. Some of them that are lucky to be in school before they are married off are scared of their precarious situations and daily looking forward to a change or stop to this uncivilized practice. For example, in Ethiopia, it was recorded that a girl was engaged at 8 years and now 12 years old!!! Her major dream now is looking forward to the moment she would leave the school to live with her husband-old enough to be her father.
Because of the serious social negative impact, the child-marriage is having on these innocent under-age girls and the society, a panorama was conducted with the public and other professionals. Let’s hear them:
INTERVIEW WITH MRS JAIYEOLA
Question-TIN- What do you understand by girl-child marriage?
Answer-Mrs. Jaiyeola- By my understanding, girl-child marriage is a union between an adult man and an under-aged girl of less than 18 years.
Question-TIN-What in your opinion is responsible for this?
Answer-Mrs Jaiyeola–I think it is lack of education and poverty.
Question-TIN- Can you give out your girl-child in marriage at such a tender age?
Answer- Mrs. Jaiyeola- Never. My girl-child(ren) are in school and could not be engaged or married until after their education. By that time, they would be mature to decide who to marry.
Question-TIN-Do you envisage any danger in giving out a girl –child in marriage?
Answer- Mrs. Jaiyeola- Yes. It is not a good health-wise. The body system of the girl is not yet developed, she should still be under her parents and in school learning about her body and environment instead of rushing to involving herself in making babies.
Question-TIN-What counsel would you offer to parents giving out their children in marriage at the tender age of 12 years or less?
Answer- Mrs. Jaiyeola- They should desist from doing so. They should think of the future of these under-aged and should not be selfish because of the financial gains, they want to achieve. Also, the governments (nationally and globally) should make a law on this and enforce the implementation of the law not to allow girls below 18 years to go into marriage; they should make it illegal.
-Mrs. Jaiyeola is an Educationist and Statistician in Public service
INTERVIEW WITH MRS ALEOLUWA
Question-TIN –What do you understand by girl-child marriage?
Answer-Mrs Aleoluwa-Girl-Child marriage is any formal or informal union where one or both of the partners are under 18 years of age, especially the girl who is prone to many complications.
Question-TIN-Do you think this type of union is very convenient?
Answer-Mrs Aleoluwa- NO. It is a marriage of inconvenience where a girl-child is coarse or manipulated by parents into early and dangerous marriage without any consideration for the girl’s well being.
Question-TIN- Is this practice peculiar to the African continent?
Answer-Mrs AleOluwa- NO. It is universal. Although more common in Africa. Each year, 12 million girls are married before the age of 18 years; countries, cultures and religions not withstanding-23 girls, every minute, nearly every 2 seconds!
Question-TIN- Do you think this girl-child marriage brings positive development where it is practiced?
Answer-Mrs AleOluwa- There is no right-thinking person that would support an under-aged girl for marriage because of its numerous complications such as subjecting the girl to so many hardships in life, because she is not prepared for the task ahead. She may not know how to cope with relationship, hence end up being labeled ‘a failure’ if eventually divorced. Also, she will be under psychological trauma owing to a greater risk of violence, orchestrated by her supposedly rightful development. Because that is the age to be in a school where she will meet her age mates to learn so many things that would add value to her life.
Question-TIN-Apart from what you’ve mentioned, are there any other disadvantages?
Answer-Mrs AleOluwa- They ate numerous. She is robbed of her childhood experience; she will be trapped in poverty if she doesn’t go to school or learn any trade. It is a form of sexual abuse if forced into such a marriage by the parents. This type of union prevents such a girl-child from achieving her full potentials and unable to realize her dreams or ambitions as she wants.
Question-TIN-Health wise, is the girl-child safe?
Answer-Mrs AleOluwa- Health wise, she is exposed to so many complications ranging from sexually transmitted diseases(STD), mental illness, surgical cases i.e. ruptured uterus, vesicovaginal fistula in which urine will be leaking uncontrollably out to a hole formed, linked to the urinary tract to the reproductive part. Because she is inexperienced, may not allow the baby, product of this marriage to survive because it’s a situation of ‘’a baby has given birth to a baby’’.
Question-TIN- So, there is no advantage in this girl-child marriage?
Answer-Mrs AleOluwa-Even if there is an advantage since the disadvantages override the merits, it is not worth it and we are talking about life in this case. If we value life, we will not look at the advantageous side of it which is very minimal. We should think of life which is paramount; marriage and procreation can still be achieved in later years.
-Mrs. AleOluwa is a professional Nurse at LAUTECH, Oshogbo
WHAT IS THE WAY FORWARD?
-According to Nurse Aleoluwa, obstetric fistula is an injury caused by obstructed labour and which often results in ‘Constance incontinence, shame, and other health problems for social segregation of the victims. Their young bodies are not fully developed and ready to bear children. In Nigeria, Niger state has the largest rate of child marriage in the world!!! Something drastic is to be done about it.
Our Churches, Mosques, Temples (India) should start preaching or sermonizing against child marriage. Pastors/Imams should find out their ages before joining them as husband and wife and use the word of God to discourage such a union.
Communication for change is crucial in this aspect. Let there be street drama, radio and television jingles to sensitize the populace all over the world on the dangers embedded in upholding this practice.
The belief that girl-child marriage is part of some cultures/traditions notwithstanding; it must be discouraged in order not to perpetuate the circle of poverty in various societies from generation to generation. The solution is not to condemn all traditions but to work with communities to change the traditions from within. According to GIRLS NOT BRIDES Champion, Graca Machel’’ Traditions are made by people; they can be changed by people’’.
Girl- Child marriage is not only for girls. Boys are married off too. According to UNICEF, 156 million men alive today were married before 18 years of age. Child marriage often pushes boys into the workforce and forces them to undertake adult responsibilities at unripe ages and before they are ready for it.
The Centre for women development in Nigeria and other similar departments in countries affected should look into this issue objectively and act fast to discontinue the trend by partnering with their communities, agencies and the media to use oral-media in campaigning against this deadly monster of child-marriage.
Interview conducted by –Idowu Julius
YOUR TEENAGER AND YOU
You cannot give what you don’t have. Unless you have the experience of how teenagers think and behave, it will be difficult for you to understand or mold them to conform to the standard you want for them. Until you come to their level of thinking, to handle them well might be a mirage. Find below 12 points on how to understand the thinking chemistry of teenagers, how and why they behave in most circumstances:
- Teenagers are selfish
- They are experimental in nature
- They will always test boundaries and test how emotionally you are
- They are proud and over-confident, even at things they may not be able to handle well.
- They are rebellious-hate rules and restrictions because they curtail their freedom
- Think more intelligently than you.
- Peer pressure /influence is strong among teenagers
- They want to do whatever they feel like doing without thinking of the consequences.
- They don’t live in your own world.
- Feeling of inadequacies and unsecured.
- Like fun and adventures.
Once you identify any or some of the above mentioned, your job now is to do the following:
- Feed them with accurate knowledge
- Give them the right information
- Correct them in love
- Get them to have confidence in you
- Come to their level.
- Encourage them to read good books-motivational, autobiographies etc.
- Encourage them to talk to you on issues that bother them.
- Let them understand the evils of bottling up their challenges.
- Know and be familiar with all their friends (males or females)
10 Involve them in intelligent discussions.
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