Once in a while accident do happen in man/woman affair, even when full precautions are taken. The manufacturers of these contraceptives never guarantee one hundred percent efficacy.
At times, slips do occur on the part of the user. ‘’Accident’’ happens by chance and not by design but in relationships, some of these accidental pregnancies are designed by the woman concerned through Defying the precautionary steps necessary in the use of some contraceptives.
When accidents like these happen , it only depends solely on the people involved to make up their minds whether to keep it or not.
In some cases , the accidents are designed , to make the man take his ‘’decision’’. An ‘’accident’’ may be needed to help him make up his mind .
Most men that fall prey to these kind of accidents are the not serious type or the ‘’Cassanova’’ group.
But , when women trap their spouses with this type of ‘’accidental pregnancy’’, they always end up blaming themselves because the man may not forget or forgive this kind of trap and so may make the woman regret her action by victimizing her whether physically or emotionally ; some will just refuse to swallow the ‘bait’ by claiming the kid and disclaiming the mother.
Jide was a fresh graduate of a University. He has just finished his Youth Service Corps. He is young and full of life. One of his girlfriends was the very quiet and tolerant type . She takes every insult Jide gives out in the process of trying to frustrate her out of his life.
She never complain of his escapades, she was not to talk when she meets other girlfriends of his , even when the other is given preferential treatment.
Jide never showed her the needed love or affection but still tagged along, somehow, she got pregnant ’’accidentally’’ and decided to give it some time before informing Jide. When she informed him, he was mad and advised her to abort the pregnancy but she refused, claiming she could take care of herself and the unborn baby.
She later went to the parents of the guy to inform them about the pregnancy. The parents gave her their support, despite , Jide stood his ground because he had somebody else he would like to marry.
The lady had the baby at last. After about a year , Jide got engaged to another damsel. Bola never complained, she would come once a while with the baby to Jide’s place. Later, Jide was to travel abroad with his fiancée
The girl was the first to travel out of the country while Jide was to follow later because he had a job at hand and other arrangements to make before leaving the country.
Bola accidentally got pregnant again. This time only God knows how the accident happened , although Jide would tell anybody that wishes to listen and swear that ‘’remote control’’ was at work through the N.R.C.(African talisman).
Bola had the second kid and that alone disrupted his planned trip. She knew just when to strike. Jide was forced to live with the mother of his kids, though he refused to marry her in the proper way. And this does not stop him from living like a bachelor .
He keeps his chains of girlfriends and brings girlfriends to sleep at home. If Bola was not satisfied , she may as well vacate his life.
Bola is definitely not happy in the house. But she took things calmly. She humbled herself and vacated the room when his girlfriends came calling despite her academic qualification of National Certificate of Education(N.C.E.)Certificate.
And because the lady was well paid , Jide would go to the extent of telling her lies to collect her salary but would maintain at other times that when he’s ready for marriage she would have to go. Is this a good ‘’Price’’ for accidental pregnancy?
In another scenario, Kemi got pregnant by ‘’accident’’ for her Sugar Daddy in a bid to extort money from the ‘’money bag’’. She informed him that she needed money for an abortion because she was still a student. This was a good news to the old man , in view of the fact that none of his wives has ever been pregnant for him.
It looks like Kemi was going to make him a father for the first time . But , the man’s response shocked Kemi. The old man wanted the pregnancy kept and promised Kemi every goody if only she would have the baby.
Kemi insisted on terminating the pregnancy. The Sugar-Daddy secured a court injunction restraining Kemi not to terminate the pregnancy.
So , she was going to become the fourth wife to a ‘Sugar Daddy’? She didn’t like it a bit, but she has been cornered. She was to endure this for the rest of her life with the old man.
Though , there was money to throw around, but then, she’s not enjoying her position as the fourth wife, she would have loved to be married to the man of her choice but for the ‘’accidental pregnancy’’.
Mama Deji was forty-eight years of age when she got pregnant accidentally though for her husband. At that age she was ashamed of carrying the pregnancy and afraid of going for D&C; she had to endure the nine months though has six grown up ‘’men kids’’ already .
The older kids are not spared the embarrassment as people and friends taunt them with their mum’s pregnancy. At last, she had the baby and the baby was named ‘ Ifekiitan’ People around call him ‘’mistake’’. The mother herself would tell everybody that it was just once that resulted in ‘’Mistake’’ being born, the belief was that ‘’Mistake’’ has a mission to accomplish in life but is this not another price of accidental pregnancy?
Some ladies were interviewed whether they can trap or help their spouse to make up his mind by getting pregnant . Here are their responses;
Titi, a student in a higher institution says, ‘’I will never contemplate of trapping a man with a pregnancy because I will not feel too well in the relationship and so will not think of it. Let the man love me enough to ask for my hand in marriage. I want to enjoy my husband’s full support in starting a family.’’
Dunni, another female , has this to say,’’ a woman that traps a man with pregnancy is not confident of herself and is not sure of herself , so, she is suffering from an inferiority complex. I will not do it for anything no matter how much I love the man. ‘’He’s supposed to propose and not the other way round’’ she opined.
For Nkechi she does not see anything bad in ‘’helping ‘’ a man make up his mind if he’s too slow or indecisive ; ’’ I would have to help him if I’m ready to have a baby and nothing would make me go back on my decision so far I have the support of the man’s parents I do not care about how the man feels so far I achieve my aim of marrying my dream man. ‘’If I don’t do it somebody else will ‘’,she says.
By: Bosede Ojo