‘Love makes your soul crawls out from its hiding place.’’-Zara Neale Hurston
Saying ‘’I love you’’ always makes for a tender moment. But ‘’I love you’’ doesn’t really only have to be ‘’said ‘’ with words
There are simple ways to show how much you love someone without uttering those three little words.
Find below those 4 ways to show you love someone:
- SHOW YOUR APPROVAL, GRATITUDE AND ADMIRATION
As human beings, we are created to seek reassurance from those we love and even sometimes from those we don’t. So, it makes sense that you’d do your best to make sure our partner knows just how much you approve of and admire him.
And even if you think he already knows how you feel about him, constant reminders are still extremely motivating. We all want to be shown approval for the things we do, whether It’s the way we provide for our family financially, the way we raise our children, the way we take care of the house, our jobs…
So, being constantly critical and only focusing on your partner’s negative attributes doesn’t say’’Ilove you’’ very well. In fact, it’s demeaning and will drive him away pretty quickly. Unfortunately, most of us are guilty of it.
Recognize the damage your criticism may be causing, especially those that are petty and insignificant and choose your battles wisely. And when your partner shows his love for you by doing the shopping, putting the seat down or changing your oil, don’t forget to respond with gratitude of words like ‘’Thank you for……..’’ I appreciate that you did….’’
- MAKE HIM
Commitment is the foundation on which any relationship, especially marriage rests. While your relationship should take priority in your life, there is no denying that you have a long list of other commitments to attend to.
Your career, children, friends, extended family, and social life often compete for the time you could be spending with your partner. Your commitment to your man can easily waver as you give importance to all these other things.
It is especially difficult once children are in the picture. Parents, especially mothers, tend to think that their children are the biggest obligation, thereby pushing the spouse aside, but your spouse is just as vital, if not more.
And there is no better way to show him you know that, than by affording him time and affection. Saying ’’I love you’’ isn’t enough –you need to demonstrate it with actions. Always make sure you spend an adequate amount of time and more importantly, quality time with your partner. Don’t neglect his needs in favour of other more trivial things.
- SMALL STUFF REALLY COUNTS
Being thoughtful and taking initiative to bring happiness to your partner is another simple way to say ‘’I love you’’. Kindness and consideration, especially when it’s personal and intimate to who you are as a couple, shows you care so much and that you’re willing to go above and beyond.
It’s about responding to your partner’s needs and wants before he even asks. Be one step ahead remembering important events coming up in his life. Take the initiative to call him at work to see how the big presentation went, management meeting etc.
You can also clean out his closet for him without being asked to do so. Don’t wait for him to ask you if you’ll rub his shoulders or foot after a long day. Cultivate the habit to be a good listener and communicator.
- BE YOUR HONEY EVERYTHING
Whether you are a girlfriend or a wife, your true status takes on so much more meaning than your title does. You are a friend, a lover and a confidant. You may also be the mother of your spouse’s children. So, fulfil all those roles 100%. Be the friend who is fun and loyal, the lover who is affectionate and intimate and the confidant who is trustworthy.
If you have children, being a loving, devoted mum shows your partner you love him enough to take care of the children you have together. Being your partner’s everything is just another way of saying ‘’I love you’’.
Okay, you are no machine, but one sure thing is that God has endowed you to multitask, which means you can do it if you set your mind to it. Tentatively, isn’t it always good to do things to your conscience and honest satisfaction, so that in the wake of anything going wrong, you can beat your chest and say that you did your level best?
So, go ahead and ‘’tell’’ your partner just how much you love him today.