When it all feels challenging, can you rely on yourself to be your own best friend?
When our relationship with ourselves is loving and solid, we trust. We learn. We grow. We expand. Our actions reflect what matters to us.
But when we abandon our emotional needs, we create a world that doesn’t align with who we are. We make choices that are reactive rather than from our deepest core.
I’m ready to trust myself more deeply
Self-Abandonment
Self-abandonment is stealthy. You don’t see it. But you feel it. You feel overburdened, shamed, small and insignificant.
You feel rudderless.
Self-abandonment is when you neglect your emotional wellbeing, turn to the person next to you as if they have the answer for you, or do anything not to feel what is actually going on inside of you. You reject your insights and emotions. You suppress them so much that you may not even be aware of what you’re feeling.
You don’t trust yourself to feel your emotions. You worry you’ll become overwhelmed. “Can I manage this? Will I lose control?”
Of course it all
For many, the habit is to turn away from our inner world. We don’t like difficult feelings and we’re not skilled with them. So we turn toward anything on the outside of us that we believe is more trustworthy than ourselves.
The result?
We never learn from our greatest resource: ourselves. And this is when we make choices that work against us-whether or not we’re doing it consciously.