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YOUR TEENAGER AND YOU

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You cannot give what you don’t have. Unless you have the experience of how teenagers think and behave, it will be difficult for you to understand or mold them to conform to the standard you want for them. Until you come to their level of thinking, to handle them well might be a mirage. Find below 12 points on how to understand the thinking chemistry of teenagers, how and why they behave in most circumstances:

  1. Teenagers are selfish
  2. They are experimental in nature
  3. They will always  test boundaries and test how emotionally you are
  4. They are proud and over-confident, even at things they may not be able to handle well.
  5. They are rebellious-hate rules and restrictions because they curtail their freedom
  6. Think more intelligently than you.
  7. Peer pressure /influence is strong among teenagers
  8. They want to do whatever they feel like doing without thinking of the consequences.
  9. They don’t live in your own world.
  10. Feeling of inadequacies and unsecured.
  11. Like fun and adventures.

Once you identify any or some of the above mentioned, your job now is to do the following:

  1.       Feed them with accurate knowledge
  2.       Give them the right information
  3.       Correct them in love
  4.       Get them to have confidence in you
  5.       Come to their level.
  6.       Encourage them to read good books-motivational, autobiographies etc.
  7.       Encourage them to talk to you on issues that bother them.
  8.       Let them understand the evils of bottling up their challenges.
  9.       Know and be familiar with all their friends (males or females)

10      Involve them in intelligent discussions.

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20 WAYS TO KEEP YOUR JOB

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Everybody is elated when he or she secures a lucrative job. There is usually a sense of fulfillment and joy in the pride of achievement. The next thing is to be looking ahead to further achievements. However, if care is not taken, the euphoria of a good job might becloud ones reasoning and eventually culminated to a job loss if caution is not applied. Here are some of the things we need to guide against for us to remain effective, efficient and relevant on the job:

  1. Be punctual at work
  2. Avoid eye service
  3. Don’t argue with your Boss even when you are right- use wisdom to put in your points and be polite in doing this
  4. Obey or follow instructions
  5. Stick to the schedules and don’t break company policies
  6. Give sincere and quality service
  7. Get along with others
  8. Be cheerful and helpful
  9. Don’t look for shortcuts
  10. Don’t take offence when you are criticized constructively but use it as a springboard for improvement
  11. Minimize your complaints and don’t be lazy
  12. Drop your problem at home –don’t wear it to the office
  13. Take pride in your job
  14. Don’t envy those ahead of you
  15. Don’t demand reward for every service rendered.
  16. Train your subordinates
  17. Share your experience with others
  18. Take responsibility for all your actions
  19. Give official documentation a top priority
  20. Be honest and maintain your integrity.

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WHAT IS SELF?

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The concept of ‘self’ is wide and diverse depending on one’s perception. To a layman, ‘self’’ could mean innate ability, while some other people may view it as the natural gift ordained by God. Some people might take it further on the semantic and view it as traits of arrogance or self aggrandizement. It is pertinent therefore, to look at this concept of ‘’self’’ deeply and juxtapose it with our contemporary world to know how it can be of help or otherwise to us as individuals and society at large. With this background about ‘self’ talk, we can conveniently ask the question-what is self? Your ‘self’ Is what people call ‘I’ or ‘Me’. Your ‘self’ is the centre of your personal world. Let’s look at the components:

BASIC COMPONENTS OF SELF: (1) THE NATURAL SELF- The first component is your natural self. Everybody has a fundamental inner nature or inner core of genetics, drives, instincts and human potentials-this is your animal nature (human beings are higher animals).Your animal nature is the same among living beings. For example: needs for food, shelter, physical safety, belonging and love. Some of these traits are unique to individuals to realize his good ‘self’. This is the natural self.

2.’ LEARNED SELF’- The next one is’ learned self’-This ‘self’ is a product of your social learning history.

This may be the way you have been groomed in your vocation to see or view yourself and skills in constraints of reality. Most of us have diverse ways of thinking about ourselves that prevent us from attaining our human potentials. Therefore, your learned self can be good or bad but usually admixture of both.

  1. CHOOSING’ SELF’: Another form of ‘self’ is choosing ‘self’. Your natural self represent your endowed gift, while your learned self reflects your reminiscences. Your ‘choosing self’ represents your capacity to make your life through your choices now and in the future. Thus, you are in the constant process of creating yourself. This provides you with the capacity to choose to throw away the ugly habits of thinking and’ self’ talk  of your ‘learned self’  that block your fulfilling the inner core of your nature or ‘natural self’. You can also use this principle to choose the aspect of your natural ‘self’ that you wish to develop. This will help particularly for the development of social interest and concern for others that goes beyond ‘self’ interest.
  2. SELF SUPPORT: Finally, is the self support. You can realize your human potential when you employ the self support. What it thus portends is that you can choose to either be your own best friend or your worst enemy as the saying goes. If you can win this conflict or make progress in it, you may likely lead a freer, happier and more fulfilled life. The cost however, for those in the other negative struggle side can be too high or costly. Those cost may include regular strife, alienation, escape into alcohol, hard drugs, promiscuity, violence and even suicide since they are unable to master their inner self cognitively. This weakness has brought down kingdoms/empires and rulers inconsequential. In a nutshell, avoid putting yourself or society down with the way you apply negative ‘self’ or ‘I’ talk. Avoid unnecessary rigid self perception. Accept your mistakes and enter the mood to put things rightly using the right word that will endear you and the society you live for positive development-By:IDOWU JULIUS

 

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SELF IMPOSED COLONIZATION OR ‘CIVILIZATION’?

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Every nation of the world has its culture or tradition of naming her new born baby. Among the white race, their style of naming is quite different from that of the Africans .A white man can name his child, Stone, Wood, Green, White, Wall and what have you. With the Africans, especially Nigeria and Yoruba race in particular; names given to children at birth are very significant and depend on the circumstances at birth.
In Yoruba grammar, a name can be spelt as the bearer of such name wants it. For example, the name-Abimbola can also be spelt Abinbola,Olayiwola can be spelt Layiwola without altering their meanings. This applies to a host of other Yoruba names. The examples of Yoruba names given above and their orthography(spelling) have meanings in relation to the circumstances of birth or lineages such people originated from. Their spellings notwithstanding, have not altered the meanings attached to them and they are not ambiguous or misleading.
To go to the pre-occupation of this piece, something ugly, demeaning and frustrating has crept into the way Yoruba people spell their names nowadays. They have changed the original and generally acceptable way of spelling Yoruba names which will portray them as Yoruba people. We don’t know what is the matter with these set of people, who still believe that until they interpolate English alphabets into their Yoruba names, they are not yet civilized. The question is –Is this civilization or self imposed colonization?
The alarming rate at which these Yoruba people change their names at will especially on facebook, twitter, etc is too worrisome. Please go through the following to see how insulting and misleading the spellings are: OLUWAFEMI- changed to-HOLLUWAPHEMY,OPEYEMI to-HORPEYYEMMY, ABOSEDE to-HABOZEDEY,OLADAYO to HAWLERDAYOH, the list is in exhaustive.
The above Yoruba names put in English spellings are not only wrong, but misleading not only to the young Yoruba folks but to foreigners interested in the language. It is too misleading to Yoruba folks who are just getting to understanding the Yoruba language and how names are correctly spelt.
Where are we heading to in Nigeria about our culture? What is wrong with these set of Yoruba people who had thrown away our culture and language for the foreign one? An Englishman or woman would rather acquire a Yoruba name instead of bastardizing it. A glaring reference is the late Yoruba culture Icon, SUZAN WENGER. Because of the affinity and respect she had for Yoruba culture, allowed herself to be called ‘’Adunni Orisa’’.
Yoruba language is gradually going into extinction viz-a-viz her culture and these set of people are not helping matters. They are enemies of culture and Yoruba race in particular.
China, is one of the fastest growing countries in the world in terms of technology.Yet, they use their indigenous languages as language of instruction in their schools. The same can be mentioned of Japan, one of the highly industrialized countries in the world. What is wrong with Nigerians? We don’t value what we have but prefers looking outside. It is high time the language experts and the education ministry did something about this ugly trend .We should value our language and culture and not trying to be other people. We should desist from being English more than the English people. Those involved in mutilating our language should have a re-think.

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